Get Off the Treadmill: 8 Ways to Stay Postive in the Holiday Season
Stop spinning! This post is about how to enjoy the holiday season despite being sober! (Oops, I meant sane!)
No one could convince me that the world is not spinning faster! Time really has sped up, and I seem to be working harder than I ever have before. Feeling overwhelmed is a pretty common situation – unless I consciously make an effort to stop spinning.
We all seem to be going faster and faster and faster — until we collapse exhausted into bed at night and then we can’t sleep cos our brains are still spinning!
How can you stop “spinning” on a daily basis? This is especially useful in the lead up to the holidays.
1. Stop!
Firstly, check to see if you are rushing at this moment — and ask yourself why. And if there really is no real reason to rush or value in rushing then stop it! Slow your thinking down; walk slower; take a deep breath; stop and smell a flower or do anything that brings your focus totally into this moment. You can read more tips on achieving inner peace here.
2. Look
Become really present by noticing, in detail, everything that is around you! Or pick one thing — like a bush or tree nearby and notice it’s color; it’s shape; describe to yourself in detail it’s precise dimensions and features. Doing this helps to center you and bring your attention back to the present. There is no point in bringing fear from the past into the present, nor is there value in ruining the future with fears of things that have not even happened yet! Being present right now and focusing on the immediate task at hand is very relaxing. Practicing this type of reverence allows you to see the good in everything, to see the spiritual side of things and recognize the amazing nature of everyone and everything and how it all connects.
3. Make Lists
Be wary of what story you are telling yourself about what is coming up in the future — including the holidays. I know there are so many things to organize and prearrange as I have been going through that whole process! I find making lists helps me free up brain space and not be obsessed with what food I have to buy, who is going to sleep where, which days the shops are open in case I need more food etc. Then I make schedules to help me rest my brain activity a little more! I seem to be able to let things go mentally when I know they are written down. Writing them in my iPhone helps a lot so I don’t then fret about where I put that piece of paper with the list one it!
4. Be Aware
Keenly observe your thinking about everything! Especially people — this includes your relatives who will be at holiday events. Catch yourself the moment you are not thinking something kind or positive. Immediately find something positive or kind to replace any judgement or negativity. It’s an awesome technique and sounds easier to do than it is initially — but once you develop the habit of acting with compassion and grace, your life will change! Also, ask yourself, “How useful is it for me to think or believe this?” If it’s not very useful — if it causes you more stress — change your thinking! You can. It’s a choice.